[soccer7]

I have alot of fear, fear of rejection, fear of public speaking, fear of humiliation, fear of the dark, fear of success, fear of responsibilities, fear of being alone, ... and the list goes on.

I have adopted a few things to conquer my fears, one of which i believe is very empowering for me is the power of truth and honesty. I believe being straight forward is the key to become a greater person.

But currently i'm just a tab confused on the limits of honesty. Why can't we just walk up to someone and say

"Hi there, i like you, can you go out with me ?"

or "Hi, i find you a nice person, can i be your friend?"

or "Hey you, i never liked you all this time, even though i pretended to be nice to you at work i really hate you, why can't you be a better person ?"

Yeah i know the last one might get you a preordered knuckle sandwich, but why do we have to keep going around in circles with everything, why is being straight forward so hard these days ?

Now i'm not saying that you should go tell your friend
"Hey did you know your fat, why don't you go lose some weight fatty" or something similar, because that would just be a direct attact, an insult.

That's why i combine my honesty with my other lesson, which is
"if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything" instead of saying something that is false.

If they for example ask about their figure, i would probably say
"please don't take this personally, but i think your abit overweight"
there are nice ways of being honest. I've seen too many people wearing mask these days, trying to disquise themselves as a nice normal person who doesn't have any problems with anyone, always saying one thing while thinking something totally different.

I've seen these situations everywhere, i'm not saying i can do any of the three, but i'm trying to work myself to overcome my fear so that i can do it.

Though i have to say, there are situations that i would lie, for example i would lie if i find that the lie is for the benifit of another person, but i wouldn't lie for my self. For example if one of my close friend has commited something bad, and doesn't have the courage to own up, depending on the situation i would own up for him.

Do you guys think this is a good approach to conquering fear ?