Yeah, if I had to choose, I'd be a greyworker too.
Now that I think about it, being a greyworker is a lot like the Buddhist "Middle Way".
And to take the Star Wars analogy further, here's some info on the Grey Jedi I posted a while back:
Grey Jedi
One cool thing about being a greyworker is that you blend in with the crowd. Since you don't pick sides, you are free to associate with
any side.
Also, to outside observers, whether the observer is polarized or not, you just look like a powerless commoner. You are neither a potential enemy to try to defeat, nor a potential ally to try to recruit. Darkworkers feel no *need* to take anything from you, and Lightworkers feel no *need* to give anything to you. Though you are free to *help* either side - by giving to Darkworkers and receiving from Lightworkers - however the situation, or your intuition, dictates.
Even though she may look like an un-polarized commoner, a "Grey" isn't powerless. She has just as much potential power as a Jedi proper or a Sith. She just doesn't feel the need to polarize one way or the other.
Bottom line, it's your subjective reality. If polarization is helpful, great. And I can see how polarization can be helpful with focus and orientation. (Like a lighthouse) But if it becomes restrictive, why should the polarization requirement exist in your reality?