Judgment is structure the mind builds around neutral experiences. It builds a polarity, which is usually good/bad or right/wrong.
It strokes our ego to say we're on the good side and those 'others' are on the bad side. We work hard sometimes to stay on the good side. It could be being a good citizen, eating vegetarian, joining the PTA, being a volunteer firefighter, getting A's in school... the list goes on and on.
So what happens when we polarize an experience? Well we label it 'good', we are in reception of the experience; things are as they should be. If we label it 'bad', then we are in non-reception of it and say what's happening in the moment is not right, not appropriate, or not what I wanted.
But you created the experience (S-R model) and you're pushing it away. And the two ways we push it away are (1) I didn't create this and (2) this is not right or should not be happening. In effect you don't allow the experience to be received inside of self. So it will repeat until you receive it.
The issue that will repeat with judgment is things to set off your self-righteousness. And it can be a crime your read about, a person at the office who you always think is an idiot, someone that isn't courteous, etc. These events will throw you back into the reaction that is judgement. And you get to try again.
See if you can catch yourself in reaction and say "I am judging again, I'm not doing this anymore". And see what else is there in the moment. The reaction is there to hide something from yourself so you don't go deeper into the moment.
And what would be deeper? Hmmm.. Why am I showing me the experience of child molesters/rapists/rude people? Hmmmm.
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