[Erin Pavlina]

In the beginning of a relationship a lot of couples love spending all their time together. But I can tell you that after 13 years of being with the same person you realize you can do things separately and it doesn't diminish your closeness.

Like JHL mentioned, if you do everything together you will likely be compromising a lot.

Steve and I have learned that we do not NEED to share all the same interests in order to have a loving, healthy relationship.

I like chick flicks and he doesn't. So I go see them alone or with a girlfriend. He likes to hike and I don't. So sometimes he goes hiking alone. He's happy and I'm happy. I would be miserable hiking, and he would be uninterested in watching the chick flick. So we release each other to those things happily.

Now, if your girlfriend doesn't want to do anything that you want to do, then there might be a compatibility issue there. Some hobbies and interests in common are necessary.