Originally Posted by rei
interesting that things like anesthetic don't work. has he tried various types, like it sounds like he used the shot of lidocaine stuff, has he used nitrous too?
I have no idea... it is all in Spanish
But Tuesday my husband is coming with me, so I'll ask him to ask if there is anything else he can try...
honestly? it sounds like this is psychological. sounds like you had a past experience where it was way more painful than you expected, and now you expect that level every time. (interesting enough, i drove my mother to the dentist yesterday and ended up meeting a beautiful little girl.) |
maybe considering it might be mostly psychological will give you some space to revise the experience?
I am considering this, and I do believe that it might be true... I've tried to be extremely objective about it, but still, it HURTS!!! If I am objective about pain, for example cramps or something like that, I can tell if it really really hurts or if it just feels bad.
I can make that distinction at the dentist as well. I know when it just doesn't feel nice, and when it actually hurts.
So, although it has something to do with me not being in control, not being able to decide how much it hurts, I can and have gotten over that part (and it helps, things that just feel bad, don't hurt anymore).
or... you enjoy some less vanilla sexual experiences... maybe you could imagine he is playing the Dom and this is what you agreed to submit to, to see it as a sexual/erotic type of pain? weird idea i know, but it could work right?
I wish it was that easy..
But this is not-nice pain. Somethings are simply not nice, doesn't matter who does it...