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JHL · 03-08-2007, 02:10 PM

Its understandable to want this closeness and to share everything with your partner. And, indeed, most couples probably do this to a degree at the early stage of their relationship.

But the reality is that you are two independent people choosing to live together in a union.

You will share some tastes and interests, but not all. If two people are doing everything together all of the time - I wager a lot of compromising is being done.

Everyone at some point needs their space. Some people need more than others. Love means freedom - giving a person freedom to chose their own way, to stretch their wings.

I love my g/f and love spending time with her. But every now and again I really need some space - some JHL time. Then when I see her again (like after a few hours), its like falling in love all over again. Sigh

So to answer you question - its a lovely thing that you want to spend all your time with your partner - but its a very healthy thing to both have time for yourselves.

03-08-2007, 02:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
JHL Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 258	Its understandable to want this closeness and to share everything with your partner. And, indeed, most couples probably do this to a degree at the early stage of their relationship. But the reality is that you are two independent people choosing to live together in a union. You will share some tastes and interests, but not all. If two people are doing everything together all of the time - I wager a lot of compromising is being done. Everyone at some point needs their space. Some people need more than others. Love means freedom - giving a person freedom to chose their own way, to stretch their wings. I love my g/f and love spending time with her. But every now and again I really need some space - some JHL time. Then when I see her again (like after a few hours), its like falling in love all over again. Sigh So to answer you question - its a lovely thing that you want to spend all your time with your partner - but its a very healthy thing to both have time for yourselves.