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Flowz · 01-07-2010, 12:12 PM

Am astounded that even after years of studying, pondering and implementing your philosophies I'm STILL learning new things, getting new ideas and am blown away by the profundity of your wisdom.. Ever grateful to you Johnny..

A few things I'd like to ask and get some clarification on..

- the filters by which I decide upon my friends are very consistent,

and tend to pre-qualify each new friend to my other friends.)

^^^ Could you given us an example of some of these.. How do you conjure these filters? I've a list of common things I look for in a friend, however can find my self sometimes feeling like I'm "pushing **** uphill" with a new friend.. That our values don't really match at all & that we've been living a delusional pseudo-friendship that was doomed from the start but neither of us had the sensitivity, guile, balls or self respect (don't quite know which one it is, maybe a combo of all) to admit it.. Am looking to avoid this in future.. Seems with your method this type of thing would never happen to you.. Could u please shed some insight on this..

I expect the people I invest my energy in and emotionally expose

myself to to display fine maturity (hormonal-crises aside - I track all

my gfs cycles in my blackberry's calendar, and set warning-alarms to

manage unpredictable mood-swings) and I have rarely been disappointed.

^^^ Some people say "never expect anything and you'll never be disappointed" - For me, it's much more useful to know what you expect, so you can then communicate it to others and manage accordingly. If I didn't expect, respect, maturity, non violence people could easily walk all over me, cause me pain, and drama repsectively.. Could you describe []Fine Maturity[/i] and explain how specifically you manage unpredictable mood swings in more depth please.. As this is an area which I'm sure a lot of people could use some insight..

however there are understandings held between myself and my Girlfriend

which are specific to that relationship.

^^^ Again, could you please give some examples of these please.. And/or how one would go about reaching, clarifying, knowing which type of understandings will be most beneficial for their relationship

Cheers and Blessings..

Flowz

01-07-2010, 12:12 PM	#20 (permalink)
Flowz Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 5	Am astounded that even after years of studying, pondering and implementing your philosophies I'm STILL learning new things, getting new ideas and am blown away by the profundity of your wisdom.. Ever grateful to you Johnny.. A few things I'd like to ask and get some clarification on.. - the filters by which I decide upon my friends are very consistent, and tend to pre-qualify each new friend to my other friends.) ^^^ Could you given us an example of some of these.. How do you conjure these filters? I've a list of common things I look for in a friend, however can find my self sometimes feeling like I'm "pushing **** uphill" with a new friend.. That our values don't really match at all & that we've been living a delusional pseudo-friendship that was doomed from the start but neither of us had the sensitivity, guile, balls or self respect (don't quite know which one it is, maybe a combo of all) to admit it.. Am looking to avoid this in future.. Seems with your method this type of thing would never happen to you.. Could u please shed some insight on this.. I expect the people I invest my energy in and emotionally expose myself to to display fine maturity (hormonal-crises aside - I track all my gfs cycles in my blackberry's calendar, and set warning-alarms to manage unpredictable mood-swings) and I have rarely been disappointed. ^^^ Some people say "never expect anything and you'll never be disappointed" - For me, it's much more useful to know what you expect, so you can then communicate it to others and manage accordingly. If I didn't expect, respect, maturity, non violence people could easily walk all over me, cause me pain, and drama repsectively.. Could you describe []Fine Maturity[/i] and explain how specifically you manage unpredictable mood swings in more depth please.. As this is an area which I'm sure a lot of people could use some insight.. however there are understandings held between myself and my Girlfriend which are specific to that relationship. ^^^ Again, could you please give some examples of these please.. And/or how one would go about reaching, clarifying, knowing which type of understandings will be most beneficial for their relationship Cheers and Blessings.. Flowz