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Work to manifest what is best for these girls.
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This is our intentions and it does come with a heart of love for those girls.....thank you!
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Your only problem is doubt, because you believe that a natural mother still has some kind of right almost regardless of how she treats the kids.
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You are right...and you helped me to see this. And, I can tell you where this doubt came from, now that I have thought about it.
I am a natural mother to these wonderful boys and for the most part, my motherhood skills are excellent...and it was my weaknesses that was used against me in court that my ex was able to get custody...they were not weaknesses that would harm them, but enough to allow the judge to get a not perfect image of me as a mommy...all while the diagnosed narcissist went through the entire court scene with flying colors.
As reality is, none of us parents are absolutely perfectly functioning humans and we all make mistakes....and I go back to that court date when I think about what we are about to do....and I go through feeling those feelings of defeat and not being allowed to remain in the lives of my sons as I had always was before the divorce.
So, what if she will perfect the areas of her motherhood that needs perfected for the well being of the girls and we just interrupt her growth and her and her daughters don't get to grow together on a daily basis? I am just the type to feel this strong desire to do unto others as I would want them to do unto me.
I know that I wanted the judge to hold off making a judgment against me and reviewed how things were going, just to allow me to prove my motherhood was fit...so, I am in essence projecting my own experience into this one and not allowing it to flow on it's own course...instead of what I had wished it to have flown in my own case....and her situation is way different than mine.
I am still working out all of this in my mind, so any further comments or suggestions is welcomed.
Doubt....gotta work on getting rid of that, huh?
Thank you so much,
Amanda