It's in the emotion and phrasing and of course seeing others as you really are.
Observation isn't judging. That person is fat, that person is funny, that person is not so bright.
That person is fat, that's kind of interesting, I wonder why they're fat, I'm glad I'm not that fat, although I better keep up with my exercise and diet otherwise I'll end up like that. I feel a little sad for them, but hey, it's their life.
These are observations that actually help you if you keep the emotion and phrasing right.
Oh My God look at that fat bastard, geez, he must stink, that's disgusting, my god it's so revolting, get on a diet you fat pig, you make me sick just looking at you Blahhhhhhhhhh!!
Nothing benefically to you comes from that. In fact it's just makes you loathe yourself.
It's the emotion and phrasing
HTH
Jeff
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