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renie408 · 03-08-2007, 01:03 AM

I am not sure where to post this, but this is where a lot of the discussions about this stuff have been, so I am asking here.

I am working on being non-judgemental. I am not so good at this. I swear, I never noticed how many judgements I make in a day. I make judgements about people's clothes and their hair and their spelling. I can see that these types of judgements are making a statement about me, not about the people I am observing. I get that.

What I don't get is how it is wrong to make judgements about certain behaviors that are destructive. I was recently listening to Wayne Dyer and he stated that we should not make any judgements at all, about anything. What about child molesters? What is wrong with judging that as wrong?

Some judgements just make sense to me. Some are ego based and self-serving and those I readily identify as impeding my personal growth. But I can't see where judging certain things is 'wrong' (and the beauty of it is that if you are a person who believes there should be no judgements, you can't say it is wrong, either, because that would be a judgement!!).

Help me out here. Where am I falling off the tracks in my thinking?

03-08-2007, 01:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
renie408 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 293	Are All Judgements 'bad'?? I am not sure where to post this, but this is where a lot of the discussions about this stuff have been, so I am asking here. I am working on being non-judgemental. I am not so good at this. I swear, I never noticed how many judgements I make in a day. I make judgements about people's clothes and their hair and their spelling. I can see that these types of judgements are making a statement about me, not about the people I am observing. I get that. What I don't get is how it is wrong to make judgements about certain behaviors that are destructive. I was recently listening to Wayne Dyer and he stated that we should not make any judgements at all, about anything. What about child molesters? What is wrong with judging that as wrong? Some judgements just make sense to me. Some are ego based and self-serving and those I readily identify as impeding my personal growth. But I can't see where judging certain things is 'wrong' (and the beauty of it is that if you are a person who believes there should be no judgements, you can't say it is wrong, either, because that would be a judgement!!). Help me out here. Where am I falling off the tracks in my thinking?