Ok, I'm a 19 year old (almost 20) male and want to get into a relationship with a woman. The basic concept of online dating or matchmaking type sites appeals to me, b/c that way most of the guesswork is eliminated - you both know that you want an intimate relationship.
So that part I like.
What I don't like is how dishonest and fake internet interaction can be. I think sites like myspace and facebook are totally sleazy and superficial. From what I've heard, myspace also has an increasing number of fake profiles - making it harder than ever to find a potential girlfriend. This type of dishonesty and superficiality isn't what I want in a relationship and I don't want to lower myself to this base level of virtual "ho-chasing" (its a seduction community term
) just to get a girlfriend.
This conception of online dating as being dishonest and superficial is what turns me off (and many others no doubt). I generally view most of these types of sites as being only for desparate or unattractive people, which is why I have steered clear of them in the past. That and the danger that a poorly monitored/filtered matchmaking site presents - which is the possibility of being stalked or harassed by some creepy pervert!
I guess the three things that I would desire most in a woman would be 1) physical beauty (duh), 2) intelligence and 3) open-mindedness. I'm at a university in which the girl-guy ratio is about 7:3 girls to guys. So finding a woman who is beautiful and intelligent wouldn't be too hard. What is very rare in my experience is meeting someone who is open-minded, and who I can have deep conversations with. (There is something so intimate to me about discussing philosophical subjects like your purpose in life - these are the types of ideas that I dream about exchanging with a girlfriend
).
Can anyone recommend a good site (preferably free of charge) where you can specify what types of personality traits you desire in a partner? Both physical and mental - not just relatively superficial things like hobbies?
It also seems that a lot of these online dating services are for older people (late 20s and up), but I wouldn't want anyone more than 4 years apart from me (I'd say no older than 23), so it would be great if it was a site aimed mostly for younger people.
One last thing is that I am not giving up looking to meet girls in real life. It's just hard sometimes because you don't know what the other person's intentions are unless they're giving you obvious interest signals, which in my personal experience is rare.
So the way I see this online dating stuff is that I would be expanding my opportunities to meet women, not narrowing them strictly to internet-based encounters.
Just clarifying.
I'd appreciate any suggestions on where to look. Thanks.
