I'm going to list some things that worked for me a few years ago when I was in a very similar situation -- basically just things that might trigger you to see things from a new perspective.
1. Close your eyes and imagine that you are dead. That you've died, but that you're still able to keep playing the game in a sort of bonus round. What would you do tomorrow, next week etc., if you were no longer alive as the person you were, and if everyone thought you weren't there anymore?
2. Imagine that you wake up and find that you've forgotten your name, and that you have no idea of what you do or who you know etc.: you're just sitting there as nobody in particular, and then you go from there.
3. Imagine that you have disappeared off to a foreign country where nobody knows you, and where nobody that knew you previously can contact you. Then imagine yourself waking up in the morning: what would you do?
4. Ask yourself in relation to whatever problematic situation you're facing: "What would I do if it weren't for myself?"
Essentially, what I believe you need primarily is a glimpse of freedom from your "self," that you're finding is becoming harder and harder to drag around with you. After you've had just a tiny little glimpse of this, all the articles and books you're reading will start to make more sense.
Just the fact that you're looking for ways out of it is a sign that you're ready for big changes. People usually have to hit a low point like this before starting to look for ways out.
Last edited by helgi; 11-07-2006 at 07:31 PM.