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Originally Posted by dorothy hanna  Hi Pavel Alaseev, If I got that right.
No offense taken. I basically, just try to work from where I am to the point where I'm going to be, and I work w/others, starting from where they are. Many times, if I were to be indiscreet in my vocalizing my thoughts, and opinions to others, I run the risk of frightening them needlessly. Each person is at a different level. My method does not emphazise me. The emphasis is on my relating to each, depending on their level of comfort. I have easily blown away, what could have been a good encounter by insisting on putting myself (out there) to some people, and I frightened them. I caused them to go backwards instead of moving forward, so to speak. So, I choose to be kind, and not push others to quickly. Confidence has nothing to do with discretion. Or it could be referred to as tact. |
You are right here, but in the starting post Henry said that he didn't want to be "that guy". IMO it's not about frightening others, it's about being frightened by others' possible disapproval. And the whole thread was not about influencing other people, but rather about freely sharing your views. Right?
ps: I knew i shouldn't have included my last name in my profile, cause from my experience living in the US, nobody could ever pronounce/spell it right.
no offense again.
