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Originally Posted by Logicseeker  The positive psychology movement wants you to stop listen to "dark music", stop crying, stop being with negative people and so on. I don't agree with this and I think that it goes against intuition. |
I'd say I'd buy into the positive psychology movement, but I don't think people should stop listening to dark music, or stop crying, or completely cut negative people out of their lives instantly.
If you enjoy listening to dark music, and it doesn't fill you will negative emotions, then I don't consider it a bad influence.
If you feel like crying, cry. But if all you do is think about the negative sides of whatever made you cry, and perpetuate the sorrowful emotions without any attempt at ending them, then you're hurting yourself.
Only if a negative person always tried to make me feel negative too, would I stop being their friend. But if I could lead them to joy, then I would.
None of that means either embracing or running from sorrow.
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Originally Posted by Logicseeker Sorrow is beautiful. It's much easier producing a sad beautiful song coompared to producing a joyful beautiful song. |
I would consider a joyful beautiful song to be better than a sad beautiful song because joy feels good, sorrow doesn't. Also, being easier doesn't make it any more worthwhile.
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Originally Posted by Logicseeker Thus, I do not share the common opinion that you would want to feel happy all the time. This would be denying yourself and you would miss a part of life. In sorrow, paradoxically, you can even find joy. It gives you another dimension in life. Just think how much more "flat" everything would look if shadows did not exist. |
If you find joy through sorrow, then it's no longer sorrow.
If I'm truly happy then it doesn't matter if I miss out on part of life, I'm happy anyway. Why choose to experience something painful? I don't enjoy feeling sorrowful therefore I'll choose joy over sadness every time. And when I don't get a choice? Well, I try to accept the situation as it is, accept my sorrow, and then let it go.