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Originally Posted by cylon  Sounds like you're bouncing back pretty quickly. Good for you. I don't know where we get this belief that everything has to be one man/one woman. Looks like you don't care for that particular belief. I don't blame you. |
I think the experience gained from my earlier "relationships" - my first ex and the other girl I dated somewhat recently - helped me get back on my feet faster. Also, to be honest, my feeling were a lot less intense for my ex than with my BPD girlfriend. That took me half a year to get over.
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Along the same lines, I don't think it's that big of a deal if a girl is dating other men. You're dating other women after all. What's fair for you should be fair for them.
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Absolutely. As for the one who "took herself off the list", it was because she told me she wanted to pursue a relationship with the other guy she was seeing, not because I had a problem with her seeing other men.
No matter what happens and how this all plays out, I'll have fun and learn something along the way. That's really the most important thing. I'm realising that it's not up to me to worry about whether people get hurt in the process. I'm going to be honest if asked whether I'm seeing other girls - but I won't actively advertise it.
It's pretty fun. Writing with four girls at first on the dating site and not being in any hurry at all to set up dates has made getting dates very easy. One of the girls indirectly tried to get me to ask her out ("Sooo.. what are you doing tomorrow? I'm in town shopping for xmas present") over MSN a day when I didn't have the time.. so I didn't ask her.
The next time on MSN, she was a lot more direct about it. She made a sexual remark, gave me her phone number and asked me to text her so we could meet up. Abundance mindset vibes in action, I guess
