I would have to agree that you must start with acceptance of where you are before you're ever going to be able to move forward. I felt very similar to how you feel about 6 months ago. I felt like I was making no progress and that nothing I would do moved me anywhere. I started learning to accept my situation and to deal with my thoughts about it by reading and applying the technique in the book "loving what is." After that, I started writing down goals. I do daily evaluations for now just to make sure I'm on the right path and I also do weekly and monthly evaluations to see where I'm at with my progress.
That alone opened my eyes to everything I was and am doing. I could read a book or go through a program, learn a bunch of stuff I could use to improve my life, and then I would still feel like I'd done nothing productive. And that's crazy. Learning is a very productive activity. On the other hand, I didn't have the discipline to apply the techniques in my life and that caused a lot of hardship for me. Luckily I've found this site and Steve's blog. He has a great series on self discipline which has given me the edge I need to move forward once again.
Start with acceptance and then move on from there. Study self discipline and apply that in your life before trying to attain larger goals. You have to work your way up in the world. It's like you're climbing a latter. You have to go one rung higher at a time.
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