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Originally Posted by soccer7  Whenever i get lonely or sad i used to just want to be alone and deal with my pain by listening to sad music and in dark spacous environment, wishing that people would understand my pain and feel sorry for me. I usually think of more sad stuff and imagine tragic things that i could have gone through to the point where i would just cry. |
I have been like that too, mostly all through my 20's - but less and less the older I got and the more time I spent alone. I also had similar wishes for sympathy and some kind of comforting attention. I don't think I wanted someone to feel sorry for me, but I wanted closeness, comfort and care from someone else. In fact, when I was a teen-ager, I used to wish something bad would happen to me, like I would get hit by a car or something, so that people, like my parents, for instance, would care about me. I think those feelings were related to why I would behave like you described, but I haven't the time to analyze why at the moment.
So, I don't think this is an addiction per se...I guess it is some kind of behavioral pattern you have to consciously get yourself out of. Although that isn't how I got out of mine...But if you are deliberately trying to get out of that habit, then it is normal to falter in the beginning.
According to the Law of Attraction, though, you should dwell on the times you succeed and not be concerned with the times that you fail and dwelling on your successes ought to diminish the times that you fail.