[ku'el]

Hi Velorien,

I love people who rise to a challenge, also I like your definition of love. I think your version, as a concept to be kept very closely at mind at all times, is a little wordy for me. However I wont be holding you over any fricken laser equipped shark tank anytime soon :-)

For me thinking about love as energy flow then I like to use this definition.

"To love is to be happy with".

Some ideas contained in this statement are that of connection and the idea of flow.. i.e. If you love <x> then yourself and <x> are connected and there is a flow of happiness between you.

Besides, to boil it down to the simplest level, if you have a "lightworker" political candidate and a "darkworker" political candidate on the same platform, there will be conflict, and if one is much more powerful than the other and the audience, they will take control. Witness Hitler.

I disagree.

@Narz and ku'el: if the opposite of fear is confidence, or if you have no fear, what is your motivation?

I'm afraid this doesn't compute for me. Your motivation is your motivation. I like to define my motivation in terms of what would make me happy or at least what I think would make me happy.... see above :-)

When my motivation is to find happiness through external things and events, I always find some sort of fear at the core - fear of being insufficient, fear of annihilation, basically fear that without them I shall not be happy or complete or valuable. When I do not have this motivation, I believe that I am already all those things merely by virtue of existing, and I associate this with love, because that is what I experience. My motivation is then purely giving and creative (because I don't feel that I need to take to be happy).

I'll tell you a true story. Some years ago my younger brother, who was an amateur sculpter made an object of art. He showed the piece to me and I praised it enthusiastically. The truth is I really was very impressed and I really thought his piece a wonderful object. He said to me "I want you to have it". I felt, it would be wrong of me to take it. That the right thing was for my brother keep his wonderful piece to enjoy and to be able to show it to others. Sadly my brother later died in tragic circumstances. After his death I found out that he had been very very upset by my refusal of his gift.

Today looking back on this as a lesson, I feel I blocked the flow of love between us by not accepting the gift.

Love to you,
ku'el.