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ppulve · 03-05-2007, 05:17 AM

Thanks to all for your words and help in understanding.

I do have to apologize (and it's so clear to see my errors in thinking) to all for stating my original question the way I did.

My daughter finished her treatments for Leukemia in January so she currently does not have the disease and is in full remission.

You know since I've been reading about LoA and searching websites, I've questioned my own thoughts so much - I guess that's a good thing but for so long I've been negative - and it takes practice to remind myself to stay concious of my thoughts.

But when you're a "newbie" and you struggle with change you tend to doubt what you believe - and ask yourself is "this right" or is "that right" or is this really being positive. It's all so confusing.

So many of you seem to be vets at this and that's great and I appreciate your words of wisdom but it's still confusing because everyone has different opinions and/or beliefs. I'm in the process of finding what works for me.

Anyway, again my original post was posted out of frustration and not understanding what seemed to be a contradiction in what I've read and initially that was "you can't effect someone elses experience by your thoughts" which was contrary to what I read on this website and contrary to what many of you are saying.

How could one not have an inherent sense of guilt if they in fact thought negatively (without understanding) and gave their daughter a disease. I know that's just one belief and many of you say she might have chosen it herself.

I just am searching for the way to have her stay healthy without constantly questioning whether I'm thinking the right way.

Thanks again to all and I shall continue to watch these threads for your understanding and wisdom.

03-05-2007, 05:17 AM	#20 (permalink)
ppulve Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Everett, WA Posts: 2	Thanks to all for your words and help in understanding. I do have to apologize (and it's so clear to see my errors in thinking) to all for stating my original question the way I did. My daughter finished her treatments for Leukemia in January so she currently does not have the disease and is in full remission. You know since I've been reading about LoA and searching websites, I've questioned my own thoughts so much - I guess that's a good thing but for so long I've been negative - and it takes practice to remind myself to stay concious of my thoughts. But when you're a "newbie" and you struggle with change you tend to doubt what you believe - and ask yourself is "this right" or is "that right" or is this really being positive. It's all so confusing. So many of you seem to be vets at this and that's great and I appreciate your words of wisdom but it's still confusing because everyone has different opinions and/or beliefs. I'm in the process of finding what works for me. Anyway, again my original post was posted out of frustration and not understanding what seemed to be a contradiction in what I've read and initially that was "you can't effect someone elses experience by your thoughts" which was contrary to what I read on this website and contrary to what many of you are saying. How could one not have an inherent sense of guilt if they in fact thought negatively (without understanding) and gave their daughter a disease. I know that's just one belief and many of you say she might have chosen it herself. I just am searching for the way to have her stay healthy without constantly questioning whether I'm thinking the right way. Thanks again to all and I shall continue to watch these threads for your understanding and wisdom.