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Originally Posted by Andrew Brunelle  I believe suffering is inevitable in life, unless you find a way to transcend it, which is something we all work towards. It is how we deal with this suffering that shapes us as a person. |
And that is the perfect way to ensure that you have suffering in your life! By intending that suffering is inevitable.
The problem with the 'did the children intend it?' argument is that we have no way of knowing what is before life on earth.
Different theories/channelled works/religions present many different views of life before life (as opposed to after death) or ignore it altogether.
LoA is not a religion as such, but merely a way of describing a universal law.
A child's predicament could be caused by a few different factors.
- There is infact a life before life, and the child accepted the early death/illness before coming into the world
- The child's condition is a direct result of the parent's intentions.
- The childs conditions is a result of the parent's intentions affecting/guiding the child's intentions
1. Can't be proven or disproven, and it isn't really practical to wonder about it.
2. Would mean that the parent's or even the environment were the ones that inadvertently brought this upon the child. Beliefs such as 'children are nothing but trouble', 'My family has a history of x disease' , 'I feel like I am useless, I wish I had some way to feel important and needed' , 'There are a lot of chemicals in the world and environment and these are bad for our health' , 'Life is so unfair'. I could list thousands of beliefs and intentions that could bring about this situation without specifically asking for leukemia, or to be abused.
I think a more important question you should be asking though, is not 'why did this happen?' but 'how can we solve it?'.
The longer you worry about your child's condition, the worse you will make it. Either directly by your intentions affecting her, or indirectly by your attitude towards her convincing her she is weak helpless and dying. Then her own beliefs from that doing the rest.
The more you intend and focus upon them being a healthy child however, and help them feel like a healthy child, the more chance they have of recovery.
When I was young I was a very sick child. My mother told me this a lot. I was often going to the doctors at least once a month, and for a couple of years at least once a week.
Once I left home, and stopped telling myself I was sick, and was not being told I was sick all the time. I almost miraculously became healthy. I haven't been to the doctor in at least 10 years, except for checkups when going overseas or for jobs.
I am not sure if you do this already or not, but when you see your daughter, be happy, talk to her about how much fun she is going to have when she is better, try to get as much detail in it as possible.
Ask her to imagine what she will do and to describe it to you, then keep asking her more questions to make her fill in the details. e.g. who else is there, what are you wearing, what time of day, what will you eat etc.
Do your best not to talk about her being sick, try not to say things like 'you can't do that dear you are a sick girl' try to find ways to do what she wants to do without putting too much stress on her instead of trying to protect her.