From Conversations with God
Neale Donald Walsch, in his book Conversations with God, mentions two principles that might apply here. The first is the familiar "what you resist, persists", and the second is a new one for me that is a bit difficult to fully grasp "what you look at, disappears". What you resist, persists
This is easier to get. If you resist something, you are acknowledging that it exists, and you end up giving it more power. By acknowledging its existence, you are, in fact, creating it. So in your example of a mate who lies to you, the more you focus on that aspect of your relationship with emotion and intensity, and the more you try to fight against it directly, then the more it will be an issue in your relationship. What you look at, disappears
This is also applied to something that you want to remove from your life. "Looking at" is in the sense of really looking at a situation in order to recognize it as your own creation. As such, it really doesn't exist on its own, and you can then choose to accept or reject it from your experience. We all have that choice.
So how does this affect someone else's behavior? Your mate might still lie to others, but his lying will cease to be an issue in your relationship, because you have chosen to remove it from your experience. Have you affected his reality? I don't believe so. I believe you have merely shifted yourself to an aspect of his reality that is in harmony with what you have chosen for yourself.
But the best gage of this principle is to try it yourself and see what results you get. Good luck!
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