I'm so sorry your childhood sucked.

But I just want to touch one thing you said - "Having an abortion doesn't create your emotional reaction. YOU create your emotional reaction to the abortion."
I can only speak for myself of course, but I agree 100%. We create our emotional reactions to anything, abortion included. And for those people who will be depressed for years on end about it, then abortion is clearly not something they should consider. That being said, not all women regret it. In fact, the vast majority of women I know who have had an abortion, thought VERY long and hard first, and came to the conclusion it was best at that time, under those circumstances.