[PhoenixFlames]

Ok so how reliable is online Dating?
Has anyone here used Plentofish, Match.com, a non descript Online Dating Site etc etc.

I was a little put off by my Relationship advisors, suggestion as our observations of the predicament Im in is not to do with my Looks (alot of girls say I am good looking without me asking), my Height and Physique is great (Im muscular and women comment on this) not to do with my Communication/Rapport Skills (Ive studied NLP, PUA), women say I am genuine but I lacked a certain something and was "holding back" slightly (which I fixed in my sessions- and at a party the other day I was better than ever).

The only thing missing from my package is Friends (because I couldn't build a peer group from School, Family Gatherings as I was isolated by being moved in my Peer Group Years), a good Career/Qualifications (as this was affected by going to Poorly Performing Schools were I was bullied as i was isolted from Friends/Family due to being the New Kid no one gave a **** about)
and just general lack of support, financial or encouragement from parents.

I said to my Counsellor
I cannot pull women from Clubs as I dont have my own place to bring them home.
I cannot get my own home until I get some real skills and work in proper jobs (instead of skilless Call Centres that fire their staff after 6 months).
Whilst I do have a workable plan for 2010 and have set boundaries for moving out I cannot see myself as a "complete" catch that women would date until I have these things under my belt.
As Henry Ford said "A man cannot make a reputation for himself on things he plans to do, only things he has done"

My counsellor said Clubs aren't a good place.
You're too old to try and date the 18-24 year old crowd as you're not part of their Social Network or Peer Group (I agree and I will state in a different post why this is).
You cannot date a Younger woman as you dont have a place to bring her home- when she expects you to have your own place.
Most women in your age bracket are either Married, have children, the first batch of Divorcees are finalising their papers and have kids that need looking after.
Any woman who is still single at your age must have something wrong with her.

So I think a carefully worded Ad in a Newspaper, Dating Website would be good for you.
I replied "How is a Dating site going to change my odds of getting a Relationship? You said it yourself, most women who are still single must have a good reason if no-one is touching them".

At that point I walked out and said "My opinion is that I know inside out the Dynamics of Attraction and Dating and the "Social Economics" of a man having resources, his own place to look after a woman in the long term.
I will continually work on myself until I have a woman in my life"

As another poster quoted

"How do I know I want to be single. When I dont have a girlfriend in my life. How do I know I want a girlfriend. When I have one."