Having been on the other side for a long time, and still am to a big extent, I can say that for me, these answers are good ones.
Da1prophet, I can agree with you if you said something to your friend about what you were doing and why. Backing off from her could have so easily been taken the wrong way and plunged her further into her depression/victim mentality.
From experience also, I can say that straight out dumping someone does not work either, and I'm not saying anyone here has done that, just to be clear. Friends are where Steve and some other self-improvement/help folks differ - I don't dump people just because they don't mesh with the life I'm creating for myself. I may spend less time with them, and make new friends as I grow. I have too few, and too few close friends as it is, plus I've been on the receiving end of an especially cruel and heartless "dump," and I don't intend to put anyone else through that.
Theresa
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