thanks guys, i feel so much better knowing that other people agree to the same conclusion like i did, i didn't really want to say anymore to this lady, i don't really hate her like my mum did.
when i talk to my mother she tells me alot of stuff to make me hate the lady and somehow tell the lady off kinda thing so she won't come over anymore. but now i can see that its not me really hating the lady, its just a projection of my mums hatred towards the lady that was placed on me to take action.
because my parents are practically seperated, i don't see a problem with my dad dating someone else, as long as he still doen'st have any feelings for my mum, which seems to be the case here. The only problem is to keep this stuff away from my brothers.
i decided to talked to my dad yesterday one on one and we discussed everything in a calm and collected manner, it wasn't as scary as i thought. I believed i have the courage and i did. he told me that he won't let the kids know and he knows how to handle them. i feel so much better now, its like i just grew more mature and confident.
thanks guys.
