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Bitsy · 03-03-2007, 08:06 AM

Hello,

I have been watching The Secret a lot and trying to figure out things that I don't understand, for example, regarding the effects your thoughts/awareness have concerning an individual person in your life.

Specific quotes relating to my confusion:

Esther Hicks:

"People will say, 'Well, shouldn't I focus upon that? That is real!' And we say, 'That is like saying because someone gave their attention to something they did not want long enough that it has manifested, I should do it too.'..."

This means, logically, that you can make that thing cease to exist entirely if you never give your attention to it. If you apply this principle in the context of a personal relationship, it seems to indicate very clearly that by specifically ignoring, for example, a habit of lying that your partner or loved one might have, and only focus on and are aware of the things you love and feel thankful for about them, that their habit of lying to you will actually cease to exist - they will simply stop lying to you...?

Also, from the book Ask and It Is Given I found this quote on the Internet:

"If you've got somebody's aspects in your experience that you don't like, there's only one reason they're there. You keep evoking them with your attention to them. Without knowing about Law of Attraction, you have -- through your old habit of observation -- achieved vibrational harmony with the parts of them that you do not like, and you keep summoning those parts from them by your constant vibrational offering of them."

This says that, if I have a husband who lies a lot to me, by observing his lying, I evoke it. That logically means that if I stop noticing that he is lying, or stop thinking about it and fill my mind with the things I love about him, that lying aspect of him will cease to exist. I notice the word "aspect" and I am not sure if that means that aspect of our relationship will cease to exist, meaning he will stop lying to me, or if he will continue to lie to me and I just won't be aware of it...

Regardless of the meaning of "aspect" in that quote, the first quotation does imply that if you starve something of your attention, it will really cease to exist and that person will really change their habit and how they treat you.

And then there are people, including Esther Hicks, who say that you cannot affect another person's reality or their behavior towards you.

P.S. As those on The Secret do not mention "Subjective Reality," which would explain this question, answers using subjective reality as an explanation would not be useful - what would those only concerned with LoA answer?

03-03-2007, 08:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
Bitsy Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: NYC Public Library Posts: 358	The Secret - conflicting info about affecting someone else's behavior with LoA Hello, I have been watching The Secret a lot and trying to figure out things that I don't understand, for example, regarding the effects your thoughts/awareness have concerning an individual person in your life. Specific quotes relating to my confusion: Esther Hicks: "People will say, 'Well, shouldn't I focus upon that? That is real!' And we say, 'That is like saying because someone gave their attention to something they did not want long enough that it has manifested, I should do it too.'..." This means, logically, that you can make that thing cease to exist entirely if you never give your attention to it. If you apply this principle in the context of a personal relationship, it seems to indicate very clearly that by specifically ignoring, for example, a habit of lying that your partner or loved one might have, and only focus on and are aware of the things you love and feel thankful for about them, that their habit of lying to you will actually cease to exist - they will simply stop lying to you...? Also, from the book Ask and It Is Given I found this quote on the Internet: "If you've got somebody's aspects in your experience that you don't like, there's only one reason they're there. You keep evoking them with your attention to them. Without knowing about Law of Attraction, you have -- through your old habit of observation -- achieved vibrational harmony with the parts of them that you do not like, and you keep summoning those parts from them by your constant vibrational offering of them." This says that, if I have a husband who lies a lot to me, by observing his lying, I evoke it. That logically means that if I stop noticing that he is lying, or stop thinking about it and fill my mind with the things I love about him, that lying aspect of him will cease to exist. I notice the word "aspect" and I am not sure if that means that aspect of our relationship will cease to exist, meaning he will stop lying to me, or if he will continue to lie to me and I just won't be aware of it... Regardless of the meaning of "aspect" in that quote, the first quotation does imply that if you starve something of your attention, it will really cease to exist and that person will really change their habit and how they treat you. And then there are people, including Esther Hicks, who say that you cannot affect another person's reality or their behavior towards you. P.S. As those on The Secret do not mention "Subjective Reality," which would explain this question, answers using subjective reality as an explanation would not be useful - what would those only concerned with LoA answer?