Hi there Nina, thanks for introducing yourself
Ending your relationship must have been such a difficult thing for you, even if it was right that it should end. It must feel like your world has been turned upside down. I'm sure you must be in a lot of pain right now and feeling very sad.
Its difficult because this person had been a part of your life for 3 years, good or bad, they were there and now they're gone. Its a very painful loss that takes some time to come to terms with.
Its always an additional sorrow when a relationship ends badly. Its because emotions are running high and people often say and do things they dont really mean and probably wish they hadnt later. But it does leave you wishing it didnt have to be that way, because it just makes something that is already so hard, even harder to come to terms with.
Acceptance of your loss is the final corner to turn. And to get there, try to keep in mind that there were good reasons that the relationship didnt work out. It just wasnt working for you, and there IS a better one out there for you - have no doubt about that. When you feel down one naturally tends to view things a little negatively - but that will change in time. You are right to have hope - the universe is tireless and very persistant about sending all of us as much love as we are ready for.
Here's a quote from
The Prophet by Kalhil Gibran that Steve posted the other day:
Quote:
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
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P.S Dharma is right about the expressing bit - its ok to feel angry and resentful and everything else. You are entitled to your feelings - they are your truth and perfectly ok to feel. In this way, when you let them go, they're gone for good. If you try to reject them or disown them, its a bit like pushing a splinter back inside your skin (imagine the results!). Give yourself permission to feel it all and to let it all out, thats a great thing you can do for yourself right now.