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gemabeam09010805 · 12-08-2009, 09:49 PM

This is part of a school project my partner and I have to do, so no comments back are necessary. MY partner and I are very Pro-Life. My partners situation isn't like mine, but her opinion is very strong. She feels that abortion is wrong. It disturbed her when reading that it is used as a form of birth control. She believes everyone deserves a chance and mothers deserve a second chance. The fetus is still a person and still has a soul, and the soul has a right to life. Since she knows the point of view I come from and knows my story, she completely agrees and thinks adoption is the appropriate alternative.

Abortion. Scary thought, for me especially.
Reading through these could convince anyone to take either side, but I am sticking to what I believe in and that is PRO-LIFE. I am against abortion because I was adopted and could have easily been aborted because of my situation.
I am 18 years old and grew up in an amazing home with two loving parents and two wonderfuly siblings: my brother and sister, who were also adopted.
All three of our situations are different and God bless my parents for choosing to save our lives.
My biological mother was 14 when she became pregnant and my father was 21. She was 15 when she had me and it was a mess...
The day I was born, they tried to get my birth father to the hospital to sign my birth certificate, but he refused saying I wasn't his child. The family then had to threaten him with sagatory rape in order to get him to sign, and he did.
The families had never gotten along from day one, so youc an imagine the trouble this would have aroused.
Seeing the comments above and reading the "what-ifs" still does not convince me. My mother was young and alone after my birth. My father denied I was his child and the families hated each other. To me, this sounds like it had high potential to consider abortion...
Luckily, they didn't. They chose an open adoption and I now keep in contact with my birth familes though I don't know much about all of them. There is still a lot of bitterness and I have only met my grandparents for my mom's side once & they are divorced.
Though my father denied me, he was in my life before my birth mom decided to be. I saw him every summer until he moved out of state. It was just a couple years ago that my birth mother finally started to talk to me and make a point to see me.
She still is struggling with it and always will, but that doesn't mean what she did was wrong. It hurts me to see the turn her life made, but I know she is satisfied with her decision. She is struggling with money and my father owns a club in Tennessee and is always with different women. Two environments I am glad I wasn't brought up in.
Pregnancies happen and people act on impulse.
Because of the decision she made, I am here today with an amazing family and I have been very successful.
Adding to this, my adoptive parents had a rare case because they adopted not one, but three children, all from different families, and all are open adoptions. We are able to keep in contact with everyone whenever we'd like and it has turned out great.
Abortion isn't the option. Sure, there are circumstances where it feels like it's the only right thing to do, but it's not. If you don't want the child, adopt. I am from a different perspective and feel very strongly about it. It can be a closed adoption if that is more comfortable.
I personally would feel better knowing my child is out in the world somewhere and happy rather than not giving him/her a chance at all.
This is how I feel and I am sticking to it.

12-08-2009, 09:49 PM	#124 (permalink)
gemabeam09010805 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1	Adoption!!! This is part of a school project my partner and I have to do, so no comments back are necessary. MY partner and I are very Pro-Life. My partners situation isn't like mine, but her opinion is very strong. She feels that abortion is wrong. It disturbed her when reading that it is used as a form of birth control. She believes everyone deserves a chance and mothers deserve a second chance. The fetus is still a person and still has a soul, and the soul has a right to life. Since she knows the point of view I come from and knows my story, she completely agrees and thinks adoption is the appropriate alternative. Abortion. Scary thought, for me especially. Reading through these could convince anyone to take either side, but I am sticking to what I believe in and that is PRO-LIFE. I am against abortion because I was adopted and could have easily been aborted because of my situation. I am 18 years old and grew up in an amazing home with two loving parents and two wonderfuly siblings: my brother and sister, who were also adopted. All three of our situations are different and God bless my parents for choosing to save our lives. My biological mother was 14 when she became pregnant and my father was 21. She was 15 when she had me and it was a mess... The day I was born, they tried to get my birth father to the hospital to sign my birth certificate, but he refused saying I wasn't his child. The family then had to threaten him with sagatory rape in order to get him to sign, and he did. The families had never gotten along from day one, so youc an imagine the trouble this would have aroused. Seeing the comments above and reading the "what-ifs" still does not convince me. My mother was young and alone after my birth. My father denied I was his child and the families hated each other. To me, this sounds like it had high potential to consider abortion... Luckily, they didn't. They chose an open adoption and I now keep in contact with my birth familes though I don't know much about all of them. There is still a lot of bitterness and I have only met my grandparents for my mom's side once & they are divorced. Though my father denied me, he was in my life before my birth mom decided to be. I saw him every summer until he moved out of state. It was just a couple years ago that my birth mother finally started to talk to me and make a point to see me. She still is struggling with it and always will, but that doesn't mean what she did was wrong. It hurts me to see the turn her life made, but I know she is satisfied with her decision. She is struggling with money and my father owns a club in Tennessee and is always with different women. Two environments I am glad I wasn't brought up in. Pregnancies happen and people act on impulse. Because of the decision she made, I am here today with an amazing family and I have been very successful. Adding to this, my adoptive parents had a rare case because they adopted not one, but three children, all from different families, and all are open adoptions. We are able to keep in contact with everyone whenever we'd like and it has turned out great. Abortion isn't the option. Sure, there are circumstances where it feels like it's the only right thing to do, but it's not. If you don't want the child, adopt. I am from a different perspective and feel very strongly about it. It can be a closed adoption if that is more comfortable. I personally would feel better knowing my child is out in the world somewhere and happy rather than not giving him/her a chance at all. This is how I feel and I am sticking to it.