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Originally Posted by jacmac1  Now I know it's not just my imagination, your approach is abrasive!
Tone is down a bit. By "You" do you mean me, personally? I don't get offended easilly at all.
How about trying to get to know me before thinking you know me! 
What I described is being hurt/offended, when people lash out at me.
I don't like arguing semantics. Perhaps you would have preferred another word - perhaps another word would have been best. Okay.
It's nicer (and more productive) to just ask if you got my meaning, which you didn't - get my meaning that is.
I can feel other peoples emotions but I do not offend easily. I was just trying to relate to the person who started the thread by giving my own perspective.
Namaste. |
Sorry, I can be a bit abrasive at times, because I write quickly and tend not bother to pad my sentences with 'in my opinion' and 'I could be wrong but' etc. that I
know would soften it.
But the 'you' wasn't meant to be you personally, I was using it to differentiate between two people. The offender and the offended. Sorry for the confusion.
You = the person sensitive to others feelings.
As opposed to..
The sensitive person = the person easily offended.
Tone of voice and word emphasis doesn't carry well over written text as people tend to wrap yo.. *ahem* 'a persons' words in their own tone of voice, or the tone of voice they think you are using.
Tone makes a big difference.
I love you said sincerely and sarcastically are totally different.
e.g. You (this one is personal) probably
at least started to wrap this particular post in an abrasive tone of voice when you started reading it because you saw me as that way in the previous one.
We all do it btw. Showing someone their mirror works both ways.
I forgot the third thing that makes people angry.
When they do see their mirror. People often get upset when they see someone doing something they hate about themselves, or something they wish they could do but feel bound by 'morals' or the like so cannot do. They turn this internal resentment against the other person.