Originally Posted by moonshooter
If she asked me for a commitment, shouldn't we be doing the simple fundamentals without an issue?
It's not so simple, apparently. Different people have different needs. E.g. you want to be sure she initiates contact as much as you do, for her it's not so important (or so it seems).
Your mutual expectations differ. That in itself is OK, but it sure helps to talk about those expectations. Not so much to change them, but to get a feel of what the other needs / wants / appreciates. And to not feel disappointed if the other doesn't meet your expectations all the time.