Originally Posted by moonshooter
Upon reflecting, I think the bigger difficulty I am having now in terms of communication is that whenever we are not around each other, like this thanksgiving break when we both went to our respective homes (as one example)... i feel like she doesn't make the effort to keep in touch. I mean she might instant messaged me online, but I'm talking about calls or simply texts. I feel like I always have to initiate these kinds of communications and that is what is really starting to bother me.
If she asked me for a commitment, shouldn't we be doing the simple fundamentals without an issue?
You make it sound like a moral issue.
People think of communications differently. Me, personally, I don't like to use the phone, whether with voice or with texts. I just don't like it. I prefer using an IM client, or being there in person; the phone is this halfway, not physical, not mental, coordination device.
But that's me. I know a lot of other people really like being on the phone and hearing the other person's voice, and don't like all the typing involved with an IM client. I know some other people who just eschew all of that and don't talk about anything important except in person.
Maybe she doesn't realize you want her to call you or text you? You could just flat-out ask why she doesn't. People are different and we've all got our weird little habits and quirks.