You can't make people change when they don't want to, the only person you can change is yourself (so cliche, but true). As an example about a couple of years ago, I cut all of my hair off, and decided to go natural, which means basically as a black person I would no longer put relaxers in my hair. At first, my family kept criticing me saying it was so nappy and rough looking. This went on for awhile, but eventually they stopped, and funnily enough now my sister and grandma have both cut their hair, and gone natural as well. I never tried to convince to stop relaxing their hair, in fact I've never even talked about it unless asked. They changed because they wanted to, not because I tried to make them. Anyway, I think the best way to change people is to lead by example. Live your life as best as you can, and when your family sees how happy and successful you are, then perhaps they'll want to change, and will come to you asking how to do it.
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