Trying to suppress or control your thoughts or feelings can cause more problems than the feelings themselves. Its better to let them pass through you. Surrender to what is, is the only way of gaining control (paradoxically).
When you try to battle with your thoughts or feelings your resistance perpetuates the suffering. It is important to learn how to take positive action with unwanted feelings within you too.
Next time you feel anxious you might want to try simply observing the feeling itself and letting the ascotiated thoughts simply pass and float away without getting involved in them. Then take action in a valued direction. Chances are the anxiety will become so much less of a hinderance when you realise that you can still take action and do what you want/need to do with it there.
Check out the book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life by Stephen Hayes. Its about ACT (Acceptance Commitment Therapy) which is a branch of pscychology based on eatern mindfulness techniques. Its backed up by clinical trials and is proven to help all sorts of psychological disorders.
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