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pjhaggerty · 11-22-2009, 06:38 AM

eventually you do have to give back.

about darkworkers as cancers- cancers are good because in defeating them we get stronger. however, becoming a cancer is probably a shortsighted move because either you will be defeated or you will destroy the system that sustains you. Overall though, it is better for humanity as a whole if we keep having cancers (i.e. darkworkers) and then defeating them, as we get stronger.

In order to get what you want, you have to give something back. Whether you focus on the giving and get as a consequence or focus on the getting and give as a necessity, it is still a trade.

There is nothing wrong with having selfish goals. however, you must make sure to balance them with giving. For example, having many relationships is not even necessarily a selfish thing. If you make sure that you give more of what other people want in the relationship than what you get, then you can get everything you really want.

For a lightworker, they attempt to satisfy their own goals in order to increase their capacity to give. If I have supportive relationships around me, it makes it possible for me to put out higher quality works. It is not advisable to sacrifice yourself to be a good lightworker. This will actually make you a worse lightworker, because the resentment you have for missing out on your own desires will cause you to give less.

It sounds like you don't connect with the way that 'lame geeky self help guys' have chosen to give. That is fine. As long as you are improving other people's lives such that they perceive their lives are improving, you are giving. If that is by doing the opposite of 'lame geeky self help guy' stuff, it's all good, as long as the other person's life is improving.

you don't need to be a raw foodist or wear organic clothing or be good with computers or be all into every self help thing to be a lightworker. All you have to do is prioritize your life on giving to others. If getting something for yourself would help you give to others, then that's good too.

By the same token, you don't need to worship satan or sell drugs or kill animals on the weekend to be a darkworker. All you have to do is prioritize your desires over everything else. If giving something to someone else would help you get something you want, then giving is acceptable.

either way, eventually you will find that you have to give and get.

11-22-2009, 06:38 AM	#11 (permalink)
pjhaggerty Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 402	eventually you do have to give back. about darkworkers as cancers- cancers are good because in defeating them we get stronger. however, becoming a cancer is probably a shortsighted move because either you will be defeated or you will destroy the system that sustains you. Overall though, it is better for humanity as a whole if we keep having cancers (i.e. darkworkers) and then defeating them, as we get stronger. In order to get what you want, you have to give something back. Whether you focus on the giving and get as a consequence or focus on the getting and give as a necessity, it is still a trade. There is nothing wrong with having selfish goals. however, you must make sure to balance them with giving. For example, having many relationships is not even necessarily a selfish thing. If you make sure that you give more of what other people want in the relationship than what you get, then you can get everything you really want. For a lightworker, they attempt to satisfy their own goals in order to increase their capacity to give. If I have supportive relationships around me, it makes it possible for me to put out higher quality works. It is not advisable to sacrifice yourself to be a good lightworker. This will actually make you a worse lightworker, because the resentment you have for missing out on your own desires will cause you to give less. It sounds like you don't connect with the way that 'lame geeky self help guys' have chosen to give. That is fine. As long as you are improving other people's lives such that they perceive their lives are improving, you are giving. If that is by doing the opposite of 'lame geeky self help guy' stuff, it's all good, as long as the other person's life is improving. you don't need to be a raw foodist or wear organic clothing or be good with computers or be all into every self help thing to be a lightworker. All you have to do is prioritize your life on giving to others. If getting something for yourself would help you give to others, then that's good too. By the same token, you don't need to worship satan or sell drugs or kill animals on the weekend to be a darkworker. All you have to do is prioritize your desires over everything else. If giving something to someone else would help you get something you want, then giving is acceptable. either way, eventually you will find that you have to give and get.