You sound like you're in the exact predicament that I was in. I was extremely shy and never had a relationship all through school, and then college, and then university! Even now, I've left university and am nearly 30 - I still haven't had a relationship! That probably dosen't sound very encouraging, but anyway...
One thing that completely saved my life was spirituality (and I don't mean religion!). I am now at the point where I don't really care if I ever have a relationship, and it's actually a very good place to be (don't get me wrong, a relationship would be nice, but I'm not so hung-up about it anymore). For one thing, it's great to be free from the 'curse' of needing someone to make me happy. Also, because I don't really want a relationship that badly, I'm more likely to give off the right 'vibes' to attract and keep someone. Furthermore, if I did have a relationship and the woman broke up with me, I'm pretty sure I could deal with it without getting suicidal - because I was happy on my own in the first place. So I would definately reccommend that maybe you look in this kind of direction. One book that is an absolute classic in this area is 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. Another great book by Tolle is 'A New Earth'. Also, maybe read some books by Timothy Leary, who has great insights on consciousness. Finally, check out stuff like Reiki and Zen Meditation. Essentially, the point I'm trying to make is that exploration of the 'spiritual' is the answer to all your problems.
The whole "youth is the best time of our lives" thing is a complete myth. Perhaps for the lucky few, youth is a wonderful, heavenly time, but for me it was a total nightmare, and I know it's that way for the majority of people. In my life there is a definite trend for things to get better as I get older. The slogan 'life begins at forty' might well turn out to be true!
Finally, with regard to actually getting and keeping a relationship, I would reccommend you check out the seduction community. These guys have got a very bad name: many claim that they're just teaching guys to take advantage of women; many would claim that the whole thing is just a con. Personally, I would say that these seduction community guys are the real deal and that they really do know how to succeed with women. A lot of the material is very expensive though, but you can find a lot of free resources if you search the net.
Yes, I know you're thinking 'if the info they give is so good, then why am I still single'? Well it's because I still have major blocks in this area. But I am a million times more confident in this area than I used to be, and it's all thanks to this material. You see, before I read this material, I used to think I was so hideous that no woman could ever want me, but now I see that women are interested in me all the time, but I'm just too shy to do anything about it! I would say this goes for you and 99% of guys who have no luck with women. Women are flirting with you, and giving you come-ons all the time, but you're so wrapped up in feelings of unworthiness that you never see.
Best Wishes,
Ezekiel
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