Ah mate, you haven't wasted anything. You're making steps. You've identified you're not happy and you're seeing what you can do about it
What you need is the courage to actually do something about it. So, your fist thing should be about developing your confidence. Many books on the subject - i really got on with Paul McKenna's hypnosis book "Change your life in 7 days" (it'll take longer than 7 though)
This website is a great resouce
Don't worry about the talking to girls bit yet. But if you did want a book recommendation there I'd say "How to talk to women' by Ron Louis and David Copeland. It dispences with crap sayings like "just be yourself" - I found it really refreshing. Actually I think a lot of what they say has relevance with talking to a lot of people.
Still, confidence is a seperate issue. It is something that can be practiced and built upon slowly, so don't be scared to develop your confidence
It won't hurt to speak to some counsellors though - that is good advice
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