Dear STA,
It seems you have been so brave in looking at yourself and deciding to take care of yourself. Stick with it
It's important to see you are facing the beginning of a new period in your life without your ex partner who obviously has a zillion issues you don't want to be carrying. Nobody changes unless they
want to change themselves. In that regards your ex friend/partner is a 'lost' cause... Let him be. Did you by the way read Steve's post on the bears and eagles? Very inspiring. I think he's right on the money about some bears not wanting to be dragged from hibernation. It seems that you are well on your way to learning to fly and I do urge you to stay on track! Be proud of yourself but stay trrue to YOUR self which needs to let go of old habits and fears and some people. Remind yourself of your new goals:
Quote:
1. Read your emails - thank you!
2. Went to mass and decided to give up my former addict/emotional abuser up for Lent! That'll give me at least 40 days before I decide to interface with him - if ever - again.
3. Prayed for God's help and thanked Him for yours.
4. Purchased the "He's Not In To You" Book AND READ IT THROUGH AND THROUGH! WOW - what an eye opener! It was right on...!
5. Hot tub and massage because my body has been carrying so much stress through all this. The massage therapist knew exactly what was going on and provided me with some wonderful spiritual tools and insights...
6. To my first Co-Dependent Anonymous Meeting. Can tell already, it's exactly what I've needed for a long time, but I was too stubborn to realize it.
7. I'll be journaling tonight for sure!
|
And most of all: you are meeting new people every day who would like to know how you get on and wish you all the best! Riding a bicycle in the beginning is tricky, you might fall on your face or get grazed by pavement but hey sooner or later you won't be needing those two small weels attached on either side... it's a matter of practising and getting support to cheer you on
. Go for it.