Everything I needed to know I learnt from Star Wars...
Great clarification Steve. For me, through many months of meditation, I was faced with this decision. Although I didn't think of it in these terms, it is a very distinct thing one goes through.
I think there is a "dominant side" that each of us tends towards - and I'm sure one can choose against their bias. But the more aware one becomes, the more likely they will simply polarize to that bias - it's doesn't have to be a tough decision because the process of expanding awareness, is a process of making conscious and integrating ones "dark side" (the stuff one represses and denies) - which ever way that is, love or fear.
It's that process which is tough!