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-why is he reducing his medication? This seems like a strange decision to me...if he didn't sleep for eight days and tried to kill himself, his psychiatrist(s) and/or social workers absolutely must know for his safety. To me, that means his medications aren't working.
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It`s a loooooong and complicated story (like his whole life, if he`d write an autobiography he`d earn millions
) basically at one point his psychiatrist put him on a drug called Diazepam (it`s similar to Xanax), he got addicted to it. His doctor stopped prescribing him Diazepam but since he had been already abusing the drug and was addicted, he found other ways to get the drug. Due to changes in the healthcare system he wont be getting any diazepam since January 2010 (unless he finds another illegal way to get it). He started cutting back on the drug like a year ago already...he has moved from 12 pills a day to 5 (which is still way more than normal). He WANTS to free himself of the addiction but it takes a lot of time. Diazepam addiction takes a long time to cure, you have to cut back VERY slowly (a quarter of a pill in a week is the maximum speed) or you will get VERY disturbing withdrawl symptoms (cramps, intolerance of light and sound, insomania etc..not to menion mental sideffects). He cut back more than allowed due to the fear of running out of the drug too soon.... and ended up with insomania.
His psychiatrist has NO idea of this. And we can`t tell her either because if we did some people will get into serious trouble.
On the day he tried to commit suecide, I called his psychiatrist and told her what`s going on and asked what should I do. She just replied that unless her patient has agreed to our conversation, she cannot talk to me about him and suggested that we should call ambulence and get him into a mental institution. We wanted to do that but in the end didn`t since we were afraid that he would fool the paramedics and tell them that he is just drinking and was fooling around or smth, he can be very convincing. ... and when the paramedics would leave we would be facing a raging drunk lunatic who wouldn`t trust us anymore and we would end up having even harder time coping with him. We forced him to take 2 sleeping pills and didn`t leave him all night. He was sober by the morning, very shocked and ashamed at what he had done and we felt that the danger had passed, for this time. He hasn`t drank since then and assured us that he wont commit suecide.
He gets proffessional help, he has two theraphists working on him. But as his theraphist said, he is too smart for his own good and nothing seems to work for him.
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-If his house is really so messy, I would suggest scheduling 15 minutes at a time. I think it's much easier to start on a big task if you can say, "well, if this is really stressful, I can stop after fifteen minutes" or "I can't clean the whole house today - how overwhelming - but I can at least do fifteen minutes of cleaning."
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This sounds like a good idea but at the moment I`m feeling like we shouldn`t back down at all. You know the saying "you give the devil a finger and he takes your hand?" this is what I`m afraid at the moment. Like, in order for this to work we cannot back down at all or he&we wont be able to take this seriously... it will start with "please, I`ll o just the dishes today and everything else tomorrow" and end up with "I promise I will clean up by Chistmas"....
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Also, when I was in a mood therapy program, we were often asked to rate our moods and anxiety levels before and after activities - we did this in order to notice the effects on our health. Almost universally, moods were higher and anxiety was lower after playing games, doing exercise, etc.
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I like this idea, maybe he should also start journaling... at one point in his life he kept a emotion-journal and said that it helped a great deal...
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Do you put yourself between the pillar and him or do you put him (or her) between and you? You put him between the pillar and you. If he is knocked unconscious, you can still save the 2 of you. If you are knocked unconscious then both of you die! So the saying is "take care of yourself so you can take care of others." The key is in you.
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I need to remind this more often to myself!
I`ll check out your link later, hav to run right now.
But thank you both for answering
