Rockchick (a lot of this is applicable to Rabbit, too)-
Quit making excuses and lamenting your perceived powerlessness, and you'll be able to make whatever you want happen. You are the only person in control of your life. You are the only person in control of yourself. Something tells me that you don't really want a job any of the things you say that you want badly enough to make them happen (or more accurately, you're not willing to step out of your comfort zone as much as you need to). If you did, you:
1. wouldn't be making excuses as to why you can't do them, how now's not a good time, whatever.
2. would believe that you could make it happen.
3. would be able to identify what you needed to do and things you needed to change to get where you wanted to be.
4. you'd take those actions and make those changes.
You don't have to be a genius or particularly insightful to accomplish any of these things. Nobody who's been successful or gotten what they want in life will say that they waited until everything was safe and in working order to go for what they wanted. The whole point is that you have to take risks to get anywhere. You also have to hold genuine, unshakable belief and confidence in yourself and your capabilities. THAT comes across to employers and makes them want to hire you!
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Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less-than-perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. Each step you take makes you stronger, more confident, and more successful.
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I forget who said that, but it applies to everything - being more sociable, joining Toastmasters, getting a job in the music industry. Can't afford Toastmasters? Do it anyway. Figure out a way to make it happen. If you want it badly enough, it will fall into your lap.
The definition of insanity is to keep taking the same approach and expect different results. I have no sympathy for people who perpetually make excuses as to why they can't change and believe they are entirely victims of circumstance. you have total control over your being. don't wait for other people to change you. it'll never happen.
(Rabbit: change your approach. get creative. take bigger chances while you have the security of parental support! also, have you thought about going to graduate school? it's much easier to find financial support for grad school than undergrad, especially if you go on the doctorate track.)
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"a ship is safe in the harbor, but that's not what ships are for."
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