Hi sarahsarahsarah11.
I think its great how you're beginning to see your own situation differently than before. That you're learning seems to make you feel good. You may not realize it, but each person you meet in your life is another opportunity to learn more about yourself. I recommend a book by Mitch Albom called "The Five People You Meet in Heaven." (I also write about this in my blog today)
You already recognize that since this girl who calls you seems so reliant on you, this scares you because you aren't sure you can rely on yourself. What can't you rely on yourself to do? Seek to learn what you can. That's useful.
You also indicate you don't wish to be mean to this girl and tell her to stop calling because you felt bad when a 'supposed friend' once did that to you.
Why did you call that person so often? Why did you wish to be that person's friend? What do you wish that person had done instead of being so abrupt or rude to you? This is your opportunity to treat someone as you would like to be treated.
Why not pretend you're the girl who is calling you and imagine why she calls you so often. Why do you think she feels as she does? Maybe you can relate. Maybe you have more in common than you realize. If you grow to be more understanding and empathic, then you'll figure out a way to talk with this girl that will make you feel okay with yourself.
Best Wishes!
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