It appears that many people spend a lot of time defining their own version of success based on someone else's ideas. If that makes you happy, so be it. I've known many people who spend time trying to separate themselves from imposed success expectations of friends, relatives, society and the media. They may experience an identity crisis. Remind yourself "success" isn't based on what you do so much as how you feel about what you do.
How easy it is to forget that success is not based soley on one category.
Consider the following definitions;
1.the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.
(success may mean you complete things you aim to do with positive results)
2. the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
(success may mean you accumulate material things and grow a bank account)
3. a successful performance or achievement.
(success may be an artistic creation which reveals your potential)
4. a person or thing that is successful.
(success may be based on how other people seem to approve or view you)
5. Obsolete. outcome.
(success may be irrelevant, unnecessary or a simple result of trying things)