You might be an impass (is that the correct word?) you know, someone who can intuitively feel the feelings of others. I am like that, and so I cannot be around people who are in denial of their feelings or project them onto others.
So it's great that you're aware of this and have taken action.
What I've found with my own family, is the more honest I am about my own feelings (I sense you're really unhappy with x, y, z) the less THEY want to be around me! Which is fine with me, although sometimes sad (I don't see my neices and nephews as much as I'd like.)
On the other hand, negative people seem to flock to me in droves.
It seems that like vampires they are looking for me to make them feel better, but often they want to do so by making me feel worse.
I have spent a long time working on boundaries and honoring my needs first, but it seems that negative people are really good at ignoring boundaries and violating other people's wishes.
Other than running away, since I must live in this world, I, too, have done what Antiventurecapital suggests, which is to counter their negativity with positivity. Like I said, since all they want to do is wallow in misery and misery loves company, they then either try harder to project their negativity on to me or run away themselves.
I can't help but feel there are many lessons for me (or maybe just one big huge one) that I need to learn and that is why I continue to experience this.
Is this something that resonates with you in any way?
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