[Kathe76]

This is my belief and I am simply sharing another point of view. Science says that love is a chemical reaction to another person, kind of like pheramons. (I dont know how to spell that, please forgive me) As I have also learned, love is a common connection of shared interests and beliefs that solidify those chemical reactions, which help to hold your attention focused on the belief that you love someone. (This is relationship based) So take chemical reaction, attention, and belief and you have the idea of love that so many people want. In the end, those expectations usually do not get met because what you are looking for in someone else is biased on how you choose to focus that attention. You could "fall in love" with someone and feel it is forever, but if you were to focus soley on the negative qualities of that person, you would soon fall out of love because of your focus and lack of attention. And the same applies to the positive aspects as well. Now for me, love is free of expectations. i choose to be with someone and choose to love them, choose to share my love with them, to nurture them with love, happiness and so on. But, I also choose to not have expectations on there love in return. I love to love, not to be shown love in return. I also feel that loving someone means allowing them the space to grow and if that means without me, then so be it. I want what is best for the person I am with, and I want them to explore life freely and without judgement. Even if they left me, i would still love them. Children however, are a different situation. I love my kids, they are a part of me. I love me and therefore love them. I also want them to grow, and support that no matter what. I hope as they grow up to teach them as much as I can about life and growth, and then give them the space to expierence as much as they want. I hope that in some way I clarified something for you. Giving you space to grow!!