You are right to worry. Yet you are also wrong. It is quite possible that if you go out with her a lot and party with her you might slip in your development. you might also lose her, and in doing so the loss to your development would have been for nothing. But you are sure to lose her if you don't let her sow her wild oats.
This is why I only date girls who are done with the party lifestyle. I must ask you to ask yourself, what is it about her that makes you so happy? Is it superficial? Is it her appearance? Her voice? The way she twirls her hair? Her tiny feet? The small of her back? The way she blushes and turns away when you catch her looking at you? Or are there deeper and more meaningful reasons? Are you compatible? What is life going to be like in 2 or 3 years after she is done partying? She'll still be much the same person, only less wild. Can you live with that?
You might need to make that hard choice and rip the bandage off. If you realize that it's best, be a man and do it.
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