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James81 · 11-09-2009, 03:57 PM

airplus,

I originally had the same thoughts as you about the subject of the kids.

But then I realized something. Steve has consistently talked about maintaining friendship with Erin, and apparently based on a few loose comments here and there, I gather they still talk frequently. He has also mentioned that they are shedding the marriage itself, but the intent is to remain good friends.

So, I put two and two together and realized that if he is taking strides to maintain the friendship with HER, it only stands to reason that the same strides are taken to maintain the relationship with his kids. I mean, I can't imagine him being like "Oh, well I'll be friends with Erin, but damn the kids. I'm going to ignore them completely."

I mean, most men, I think, drift out of their kids lives mainly because they can't handle the constant contact with their ex. I would wager that that is the biggest reason fathers don't see their kids (being divorced myself, I can definately see WHY they do this, even if I disagree with the action itself).

But he, apparently, has no qualms with remaining in contact with her, so the logical conclusion is that since he maintains his relationship with her, he's also maintaining a relationship with his kids.

11-09-2009, 03:57 PM	#395 (permalink)
James81 Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 12,690	airplus, I originally had the same thoughts as you about the subject of the kids. But then I realized something. Steve has consistently talked about maintaining friendship with Erin, and apparently based on a few loose comments here and there, I gather they still talk frequently. He has also mentioned that they are shedding the marriage itself, but the intent is to remain good friends. So, I put two and two together and realized that if he is taking strides to maintain the friendship with HER, it only stands to reason that the same strides are taken to maintain the relationship with his kids. I mean, I can't imagine him being like "Oh, well I'll be friends with Erin, but damn the kids. I'm going to ignore them completely." I mean, most men, I think, drift out of their kids lives mainly because they can't handle the constant contact with their ex. I would wager that that is the biggest reason fathers don't see their kids (being divorced myself, I can definately see WHY they do this, even if I disagree with the action itself). But he, apparently, has no qualms with remaining in contact with her, so the logical conclusion is that since he maintains his relationship with her, he's also maintaining a relationship with his kids.