airplus: Before the separation you saw Steve one way. Then you read about the separation, and now you see Steve in a different way. Steve is just the object in this event, a passive instrument, nothing more than an inactive tool. Everything that's going on for you in regards to how you act according to Steve is your doing. It's all under your control.
So why are you letting yourself get cut off? What do you believe in that distances you from Steve?
You say "I can’t accept advice from a guy that is not actively interested in his kids." Why?
I doubt you would feel this way if Steve had made the same post, but he didn't have kids. You'd more readily accept advice from someone who has never had kids, than from someone who has but has separated from his wife.
But just as a last comment, from Steve:
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Children
Our kids (ages 6 and 9) are handling this transition pretty well. Las Vegas is a place where divorce is pretty common, so our kids have friends that have seen their parents get divorced. Emily was a bit concerned about it at first, but she’s gradually adjusting to it. Kyle is young enough that he sees this transition as more of an adventure. They’ll continue going to the same school (at least for the rest of the year), and they’re living in a home that’s still familiar to them, so the changes aren’t as dramatic as they might otherwise be.
Most likely Erin will get sole custody of the kids, and I’ll be paying some child support. That seems to be the best arrangement for both of us, given our future goals. Neither of us wants to subject the kids to a shared custody arrangement where they live part-time in two different homes. We think it’s much better for them to live in a single stable home.
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Steve is doing what he believes is best for the kids. While there's no shared custody, Steve is paying child support and because He and Erin are still best friends, I bet he sees the children all the time.
Just because they are living in different houses doesn't mean Steve isn't an active parent. I would say he goes over Erin's house several times a week at least.
Edit: If you are the one having a problem, why is it Steve's job to make you feel okay? Isn't it yours?