There are our ideals,
And then there's the reality.
Face it, most of us have some immature child book fantasy love at first sight passionate romantic la de da classic novel type thinking.... Our partner will never cheat and we will be together forever.... whoohoo break out the doves and rice. but frankly, you could shuffle through 8000000000 different people and still come up, kaput.
Which is why so many cheat. Women and sometimes even men ALWAYS dream of perfect love. Knight in shining armor. Or sometimes love that could be. Some people are lucky.
But for most of us, we have to realize that won't happen. We need to settle for someone, we grow old. And face it, most of us aren't good enough to catch our ideal (wow that's gonna put a damper on your self confidence, my bad).
So as soon as someone even SEEMS closer to the knight in shinning armor... or in the case of guys... just any other woman... lol... we tend to cheat.
By cheat I mean, look, think, or feel like being with another person. I think everyone cheats in one way or another. I dream/cheat about being with christine brinkley every time I watch a national lampoon film. My girlfriends are head over heals for brad pitt, and I'm sure sometimes his face is on my body during the course of the night.
It's a sad cold reality. WE all want someone BETTER than what we have. It's in our nature. I hate cheating frankly, but we all have accept that at any time, no matter how much we trust our partner, we never really know if they will cheat. I think pretty much most people will drop our partner if someone "better" comes along. By better I mean someone closer to their ideal (he/she may not actually be better and that's why cheating sucks because people are stupid and cheat for dumba$$ reasons)
outside of marrige, cheating is a normal thing. And is actually sometimes necessary if we are those "perfect love" romantics. Sometimes someone just comes along and gives us that feeling. We need to follow our gut sometimes. But then again... we are being romantics, cheaters hurt other people because they are still in a fairytale storybook of perfect love (or just selfishly horny). Either way, it's not good. Cheaters are still immature. The proper way to deal with it is to openly and honestly talk about these feelings with their partner. Share them while still keeping face, respect, and care for their partner. Have a conversation and resolve it like Adults.
But most cheaters are too insecure for this kind of mature thinking. they will want their cake, eat it too, and then regurgitate it and eat it again. They want their GF/BF but they want sex with another, or kissing or feelings whatever.
Humans are such weak creatures and flippant to their emotions and barbaric drives. Meh...
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