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Originally Posted by Aybee  Yes, of course people want to know, but why, other than pure nosiness? And what would Steve get from answering that, other than other people who don't know him picking apart their choices for visitation? |
Nothing about nosiness I can assure you.
It is more because, as Steve very clearly has taught me, good intentions are
nothing until reflected in real, measurable results.
So if he is indeed still being an involved father, I would logically expect some agreed, stable, predictable visitation arrangements already set up.
I would be happy if he just said "chill out Airplus, I have set up a visitation schedule already, I am keeping the details private but they will still be seeing lots of me".
However if you read all his answers, there is no mention whatsoever of anything like that.
Now you could say to me "so what if he is fizzling away from his kids’ lives? Surely that's not your problem, it is? And is that a problem anyway?"
Guys that drift out of their kids’ lives are difficult for me to respect. Dads matters. Already yossarian wrote about the devastation to the kids if dads are not involved.
Now you could tell me “ok, so what, just don’t take parenting advice from Steve and you’ll be fine”
Well, that’s what I tried to do yesterday. I started with the Abundance post and saw that now we have videos. Then I saw Steve there and I could not stand watching him. It was painful, so unbearable! And I am a long term reader, I read him regularly since the times of polyphonic sleep!!! I am surprised to feel that way.
So I quickly scrolled down, just to go away from him, looked at the Mac post, not a Mac fan, so I went to the previous entry about juicing and exercise, love that topic, I start reading and guess what… I could not keep on reading.
I think the reason is that I can’t accept advice from a guy that is not actively interested in his kids.
And that is a problem for me because I love Steve’s blog!!
I think if I force myself to read them I may eventually tolerate reading the posts, however they won’t be as useful as not all my internal parts will agree to take the message when it comes from a source I have conflicting feelings about.
I really want to believe I am wrong; however I have not found any evidence he still wants to be an involved dad.
Apologies for the long post.