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Originally Posted by Penelopi  nah, is okay, your just being honest anyway.  oh that's sad.. i agree with you though that's actually how i view things, its just some ppl have diff view and opinion on this whole sex thing it just seems such a big deal, like i can't be friends with them if they want sex and its making me awkward.. its just weird u know? i don't know what to believe. anyway, thankyou! |
well i think several times now you've mentioned what others think, like social expectations... why not just set those aside or ignore them?
(edit: i know that setting aside social expectations is often easier said than done, but it's entirely possible too) i had a really great friendship with the guy i spoke of before. we were both there for each other in ways only friends are there. seven years or so is a long time, and it breaks that stereotype about guys and girls having platonic relationships (well, it broke that stereotype until the end anyway...), it went against expectations which say we would have hooked up much sooner.
so i think maybe just forget about what society expects of you, just hang out with them and be their friend. let them make it obvious if they want it to be something more, and then the responsibility will be on them and you can hopefully relax and not be so self-conscious. and if you find yourself attracted to any of them, you can make that clear as well.
i think you're getting too caught up on what guy-girl friendship is expected to be, what the 'rules' are, and those rules don't always apply... maybe this is an opportunity to create your own expectations and your own rules. if things get crazy complicated you can always post on here for more support